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[Blizzard]

So I have this friend who've I've known for 3 years & he's been dating this girl for 5 months. I'm also a really good friend of hers so every time I say hello to her, I usually give her a hug & kiss on the cheek. Lately, he's been getting really weird about me doing it but hasn't said nothing until now. Also, she told him to tell me not to do it aswell because she feels uncomfortable about it but she can't say anything to my face. Now, I feel like he can't trust me & I may lose a friendship cause of his jealousy & him being way too over protective. What should I do?

[Jittery Blanket]

Beat his ass and kidnap her.

.. but really though, if she told him to tell you to stop, it's probably best to just stop and apologize. Just tell him you don't mean anything by it, but if it makes them uncomfortable you'll stop.

[Rapunzel]

Go to anger management until you all realise hugs are good.

Pretty much what JB said. It's not like you really need to hug and kiss her. I hug people and my boyfriend don't mind but people are different. Just do what they ask and respect it.

[Blizzard]

But, why should they both feel uncomfortable with me giving her a kiss on the cheek when the relationship is with them?

[Rapunzel]

Some guys don't like other guys kissing their girlfriend on the cheek. Would you be cool if another guy was doing that to your girlfriend? My advice would be to do what they ask or you could lose them as friends and just be that creepy guy that's always trying to hug and kiss his girlfriend.

[Blizzard]

Jesse Lavigne, on 21 October 2012 - 07:31 PM, said:

Would you be cool if another guy was doing that to your girlfriend?

Yes I would be cool with it because I know they're only saying hello.

[Jittery Blanket]

Different people feel differently about different things. Just because you're cool with something doesn't mean everyone will be or should be. We all have different comfort levels with stuff. Basically you just need to respect people's boundaries, no matter what you think about said boundaries, or you will likely lose those people as friends. Trust me, trying to change their mind isn't going to work, you just need to accept that it makes them uncomfortable and move on.

[TeryoLaw]

Cameron™, on 21 October 2012 - 07:15 AM, said:

So I have this friend who've I've known for 3 years & he's been dating this girl for 5 months. I'm also a really good friend of hers so every time I say hello to her, I usually give her a hug & kiss on the cheek. Lately, he's been getting really weird about me doing it but hasn't said nothing until now. Also, she told him to tell me not to do it aswell because she feels uncomfortable about it but she can't say anything to my face. Now, I feel like he can't trust me & I may lose a friendship cause of his jealousy & him being way too over protective. What should I do?

Kill them. Kill them all. And rape that whore in order to teach her a lesson about facing difficulties in life. "Too afraid to say anything to my face", un-fucking-believable...

[Blizzard]

TeryoLaw, on 22 October 2012 - 03:10 AM, said:

Kill them. Kill them all. And rape that whore in order to teach her a lesson about facing difficulties in life. "Too afraid to say anything to my face", un-fucking-believable...

HAHA

JB, on 21 October 2012 - 11:46 PM, said:

Basically you just need to respect people's boundaries, no matter what you think about said boundaries, or you will likely lose those people as friends.

I'm not flirting, chatting her up or hitting on her so I don't see the problem.

Edited by Cameron™, 22 October 2012 - 07:38 AM.

[Jittery Blanket]

You're not getting it.. it doesn't matter if you see the problem, it matters if they have a problem. If you want to keep them as friends, you're just going to have to accept that they have an issue with it and stop doing it.

[Rapunzel]

If a girl or well anybody for that matter doesn't want somebody else to touch them then there is nothing you can do about it. You either respect your friends wishes or make them feel uncomfortable which would be a horrible thing to do because then they will act differently around you. If that's what she wants then you just have to accept it. You fighting it is just going to make them question why you are so much.

[.ęνo.]

Jesse Lavigne, on 21 October 2012 - 07:31 PM, said:

Some guys don't like other guys kissing their girlfriend on the cheek. Would you be cool if another guy was doing that to your girlfriend? My advice would be to do what they ask or you could lose them as friends and just be that creepy guy that's always trying to hug and kiss his girlfriend.

This. I wouldn't be cool with even the best of my friends kissing my hypothetical girlfriend. Even if I knew they don't mean any harm, it's just weird and I wouldn't like it. Call it jealousy or whatever, but that's the bottom line. Just apologise and stop doing it, they will forget about it eventually.

[Blizzard]

.ęνo., on 22 October 2012 - 10:01 AM, said:

This. I wouldn't be cool with even the best of my friends kissing my hypothetical girlfriend. Even if I knew they don't mean any harm, it's just weird and I wouldn't like it. Call it jealousy or whatever, but that's the bottom line. Just apologise and stop doing it, they will forget about it eventually.

OMG I haven't heard from you in ages dude!

My friends & I have sorted everything out & we're cool

[Rapunzel]

Cameron™, on 23 October 2012 - 06:22 AM, said:

My friends & I have sorted everything out & we're cool

So what happened to make everything cool?

[Blizzard]

Jesse Lavigne, on 23 October 2012 - 07:26 PM, said:

So what happened to make everything cool?

We had a long talk about it.

[Rapunzel]

Cameron™, on 24 October 2012 - 08:19 PM, said:

Jesse Lavigne, on 23 October 2012 - 07:26 PM, said:

So what happened to make everything cool?

We had a long talk about it.

I mean what was the outcome. Like are you allowed to hug and kiss her now?

[Blizzard]

Jesse Lavigne, on 24 October 2012 - 08:20 PM, said:

I mean what was the outcome. Like are you allowed to hug and kiss her now?

Just a hug, nothing else.

[Rapunzel]

Cameron™, on 25 October 2012 - 06:18 AM, said:

Jesse Lavigne, on 24 October 2012 - 08:20 PM, said:

I mean what was the outcome. Like are you allowed to hug and kiss her now?

Just a hug, nothing else.

Cool beans.

[Blizzard]

Jesse Lavigne, on 25 October 2012 - 05:09 PM, said:

Cool beans.

Yup!

Right now, I think they've broken up because he rarely talks to her, doesn't pay attention to her & she feels single

Edited by Cameron™, 26 October 2012 - 08:46 AM.

[EvilMadness®]

This has probably already been pointed out, I was to lazy to read anyother posts , but even still just don't hug or kiss her anymore, man I had the same thing happen to me about 10 years ago in junior high with my best friend of 12 years. Same set-up he was dating this nice girl I would hug her sometimes when we visited together (not kiss her) he said it was wielding her out, but she didn't want to tell me herself so he did. Point is just stop hug/kissing her. If it makes her feel wield or whatever .

[Jittery Blanket]

Cameron™, on 26 October 2012 - 08:46 AM, said:

Right now, I think they've broken up because he rarely talks to her, doesn't pay attention to her & she feels single

DO NOT, I repeat DO NOT make a move on her. This is obviously a test to see if you would try something with her if they broke up. Just ignore it.

[Rapunzel]

The best solution is to find your own girl (guy if your into that thing) to hug and kiss.

[EvilMadness®]

See this why I'm glad I'm single . Bro's before ho's . I hope it works out for you in whatever out come... um comes out.

[TeryoLaw]

Cameron™, on 22 October 2012 - 07:37 AM, said:

TeryoLaw, on 22 October 2012 - 03:10 AM, said:

Kill them. Kill them all. And rape that whore in order to teach her a lesson about facing difficulties in life. "Too afraid to say anything to my face", un-fucking-believable...

HAHA

Im glad you have a sense of humor. 8D But forreal tho, I think it is rather messed up that she is your friend and yet doesn't have the honor and decency to talk to you about something like this herself. That, in my opinion, is not the kind of friend that you can trust.